又一次勾起我的愤怒

sharis and her husband have safely reached malaysia and they are still considering whether or not to continue their lives in japan. the last time when they got back to malaysia for ROM, they actually voiced out their intention to leave japan in a few years time and settle down in malaysia. everything happens for a reason and since this is the time, just take it as an arrangement by God, although the hint is such disastrous.

we were talking about their wedding after the dinner. it will be a quite hectic thing to organize since the hubby is in ipoh while sharis is in KL. and of course the prayer and tea ceremonies got to be the most headache plan.

during my time, the prayer ceremony was a long one, the tea ceremony was a longer one and the whole marriage procedure was the longest to end. i felt like dying when the whole thing ended. this was my advice to sharis, to better ask my MIL what are her do's and don'ts so that they could best slot in everything that she wanted in advance rather to slot them in at the last minute.

i wished i wasn't there when my MIL said this - 'last time your brother (my hubby) has no choice, he must do whatever i demanded, i forced him to. after him, i won't be having any demands on you, in fact any one of you. the reason being, he is the first in the cheah family to get married, so we have to do every single thing to prevent getting bad comments from all the relatives. you know our relatives, right... they like to gossip and they would talk about this for the rest of their lives and i would possibly have to eat this up for the rest of my life. i know when your SIL (me) listens to this, she will be very and extremely 唔甘愿 because i let you do what you want and she had no choice during her time'.

苦笑地说,'我仲可以点? 都已经过去了' 深深不忿... she sacrificed our will, in fact one of the most important stages in our lives, just to prevent and avoid others from saying bad things about her arrangements for our wedding. she doesn't realize who are her real and closest family members who need her compassion. all she wanted to look after is her own backside!!! selfish!!!

sigh...

i'm so glad that sharis has a choice on her own now. congratulations, my dear sis-in-law. we are so happy for you. may you both live happily ever after.