我的笔友 - 钟小'慢'

well... her name is actually 钟小曼. but i always call her 小慢and sometimes 大慢. she is extremely slow in whatever she does. most probably she needs 2 hours to finish a plate of rice with 2 dishes. she spends 2 hours in shower room to complete a full set bath. she completes her full make up in 2 hours. can you believe this?? and this is when i call her 小慢.

she watches a 1 1/2 hours hong kee movie in 2 days. she cooks 2 sets of breakfast from 5.30am - 9.00am. terrible...!! and this is when i call her 大慢.

and there are actually more to tell... hehehe...

小慢 is a hong kee who got married to a physician, who is 8 years her senior and now residing in penang. her marriage is really a dramatic one, just like those korean drama series - the 2 families tie up an agreement to marry their son and daughter when they grow up. 小慢 got married at as young as 17 years old. after the grand ceremony, which lasted for 2 days, she stays in penang with her husband's family.

before their marriage, they met each another maybe only once or twice a year, during CNY or christmas. all they know about each another is the name - 郭耀锋 (harry) and 钟小曼.

and suddenly they were told/instructed to get themselves prepared for their marriage. too rush, too harsh... no pre-wed photos, no 过大礼, only 2 packs of BIG, REAL BIG 红包 from harry's family to 小慢's.

yeah yeah... it sounds like selling off their daughter. 小慢 felt the same too and she was so upset that she had no say to her own life and sad that she had to leave her family and friends.

i don't know much on how she gets along with harry and his family. i get to know from her that she actually continues her study and went to london with harry for 2 years to complete her master. their love for malaysia makes them back to penang - harry is still with the specialist centre and 小慢 with her her artistic photography and art.

they are extremely extreme. harry to me, is a person who thinks logically, scientifically and with senses; 小慢 to me, is a person who thinks out of the box, acts differently (and funny) and makes no sense. i really can't tell how these 2 categories can work properly TOGETHER!

perhaps this is fate. they are still living happily together. she shares her secret to maintaining a good relationship - 'mutual understanding'. they always share what they have in mind, what they wanna do, how they wanna get things done... 'never to guess as i'm bad in solving riddles and IQ questions', this is what she tells me. and i agree!


p/s: i'm sure before they can get along well, they must have gone through difficult times too. they can make it, why can't we get along well with our partners? share everything with your partner. 他们不是我们肚子里的一条虫!