new chapter in life

i find it's quite hard living with the new family. not because of their behaviours but the living habits. hmm... i still believe we can eventually live together, happily. all i need to do now is to observe and pick up their living habits fastest possible.

so far i've found some differences between the old and new home. hmm... let's list'em out:

**old
1. we sweep floor using broom.
2. we wash clothes using washing powder.
3. we drink diamond water.
4. we drink using cups/mugs.
5. we put everything for shower in the bathroom.
6. i need not wash clothes and sweep floor (and i hate doing these two particular housework)
7. i only have to drive 12km to-flow from home to office.

**new
1. there's no broom, man!! we use magic clean.
2. there's no washing powder, man!! we use dynamo ONLY!! wondering if the clothes are clean enough.
3. we drink e-spring water.
4. don't know what kinda home is this - no cups/mugs for water. we use water tumblers.
5. there's no enough space for me to put my everything in the bathroom. i put my everything in my room and bring them the to the bathroom in a basin. it's just exactly like the people washing clothes by the river. yes, the ones we watch in tv drama.
6. i need to wash clothes and sweep floor now (argh... i hate it... i hate it... :pp)
7. i have to drive 20++km to-flow from home to office. luckily the fuel price has gone down : )

m-i-l actually asks me to just dump my clothes into the machine but i insist to wash them by myself. i wanna minimise her help... if possible, to zero. i just too afraid that she may take this as a topic when we fight things over in the future. not being negative but i'm accepting the fact that no matter how well we can get along, there'll still be things that we may not agree to as we are different people altogether. i hate seeing this happens. NO NO NO... i'll try not to let it happen and that's why i insist to do all my things by myself.

there was a day in last week, couldn't remember which day, that i caused the toilet in flood. i didn't know that the flush is spoiled, i didn't press it back to its original place when i flushed. f-i-l called me out loudly and i was shocked to see the flooded toilet. oh f**k!! and now i need to clean up the mess!! what a bad day... not only the toilet was spoiled, my mood too... : (

this time sei loh... expected m-i-l to nag and scold. who knew that f-i-l didn't tell her what had happened just now. phew... luckily... oh, thanks to f-i-l... **wiping my cold sweat away**

read through a write up from the chinapress - family lifestyle on... erm... i'd call him a celebrity - Ho B from TVBHK, on his marriage life and living perspective. i find it interesting and there are some useful tips, that suddenly open up my mind:

1. tolerate, learn from, accept and adapt our differences instead of bersabar. how long we can stand each other without accepting our differences in every aspect? this is true, very true.

2. learn to report to each other in the sense of respect and care and not to control each other. telling where i go, who i go out with and what i've done in a day is not something hard to do. this is a kinda sharing and care, i'd say. at least hubby knows what i've been up to and how my day has gone. at the same time, i'd like to know how his too.

i will stick this up on wall and share the tips with hubby : )